Archive for October 2015

Why You Should Start Your Own Blog

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I've been debating with myself whether I should write this post or not. Since my job as a blogger is to share my thoughts and hopefully help my readers, I decided to just stop overthinking and just start writing. About two weeks ago, I was having a few drinks with co-workers and we started chatting about fashion bloggers and how influential they are. For example...I rarely read magazines anymore! I get all fashion, beauty, home decor, and life inspiration from reading blogs. So one person said that the blog industry is super saturated and it's stupid to start a brand new blog at this stage since it's going to be impossible to "make it". I didn't say anything at that moment because I really didn't know what to say. I admit, her comment really bothered me. Am I wasting my time? Can I spend hours and hours creating new content to only have my best friend reading? (Love you Karen!) Should I just call it a day and realize that the blogging industry doesn't have room for me?

After my 2nd glass of wine, I had to slap myself back to reality. Lies!! Lies!! All lies!! Of course there's room for new bloggers! Of course some of the most successful blogs in the future haven't even been created yet! That's like telling Adele, "don't even bother singing because Whitney already did her thing and you'll never be as good as her...". Or telling someone new, "nope, I don't want to be your friend because I already have some." Doesn't make sense right? Adele and Whitney are and were both extremely talented and you can't say one is better than the other. The "end result" is based on a listener's opinion. I really kept obsessing over her comments. This isn't my first blog and I still haven't "made it". Is blogging just a stupid hobby and I'll never make a living out of it? I took something from the conversation and decided to share my thoughts with you.

What I learned so far from my blogging journey...

1. Be Authentic: In order to be successful, I need to be true to myself and "real". I write my blog as if I were speaking to my friends with a glass of wine in my hand. It's important for me to stay true and honest with my readers. Don't "sell out" because something is popular, trendy, and I'm making a buck. It's like that fake friend. You're going to sense the shade and keep it moving. Ex/ I am an obsessive blog reader and I used to be obsessed with one fashion blogger. I read everything she wrote religiously. Her blog was like Vogue...very chic, upscale, and totally out of my price range. But it was eye candy to me. One day from reading about Valentino and Chanel, I see her writing a read her latest post while drinking my coffee and it's about her love of ...Crocs. Don't get me wrong, I like Crocs but you go from $2k Louboutins to $30 Crocs. Not saying that she's not allowed to like Crocs, but how to do write only about high designer items everyday and then do a total turnaround for just one post? I felt betrayed because I felt like she "sold out". I totally get having a pay bills but that's like seeing Victoria Beckham leaving her house with no makeup and sweatpants. You gotta stay true to your brand and be authentic...even in the face of $$$.

2. Be Brave: I'm always questioning myself on whether I should post something or not. Am I overthinking? Do I come off sounding like a know it all bitch? Then I thought to myself... if I "follow the rules", what's going to set me apart from the other bloggers? If I were having a girls dinner with my friends, would I hesitate to share the story? Chances I would totally share. I know that I'm not going to be everyone's cup of tea but I think it's important for me to push past my comfort zones and really think outside of the box. Don't overthink each and every post. Would I share this story with my bff? Will it maybe help someone else? Will I inspire, teach, or make at least one person laugh? If so, then I don't care. I'm going for it and hitting publish! (Sorry in advance for future oversharing). I know it's the new trend to write posts about crazy blogging success and making $25k a month from a blog. Sorry guys but I don't have any stories like that. I don't make any money from my blog (yet) but I can share all of my mistakes and some of the lessons I've learned along the way. Everyone laughs at the bloopers right?

3. Stay Humble: I don't care where you are in life, it's important to stay humble and not act like an a*s. People don't have to read your blog or be kind enough to follow you on social media. Stay humble, kind, and appreciative whether you're crazy successful or not. It's in very bad taste to start acting like the diva when your blog takes off. Trust me, I've seen the change in attitudes before and it isn't cool. Even if you're the most successful blogger in the world, you never know what's around the corner. Stay gracious and don't change.

Are you thinking of starting your own blog? If so, what concerns do you have?

3 Sites to Make Extra Cash

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Who doesn't want to make an extra buck or two...or three! I'm a total girly girl and I love everything involving fashion and beauty. As a result, my closet is sometimes bursting at the seams. Living in a small New York City apartment, I really don't have room for much. If I want to follow the current trends and keep up with fashion, I have to get rid some of the things in my closet before I can purchase anything new. I usually try to buy new clothes with the profits I made from selling my old things. Here are 3 sites I've used recently...

The Real Real: I've used this site for about a year now. Admittedly, last year I found this site to be better and more useful. I still use it but they are getting pickier about the items they accept. If they don't accept one of your items, they do mail it back to you for a fee. Anyway! This site is for designer items only which can be a bummer. They are two options here: you can choose to have your clothes picked up with their "White Glove Service" which is available to those with 10 or more designer items to sell. You can make an appointment and a rep will come to your house and pick up your items. You don't have to go anywhere! So easy! Right on the spot she was able to tell me what items will be accepted. It was also my first time selling so I was given a $100 gift card for Saks! Yay! (I purchased this David Yurman ring...) After that my first time selling, for any additional items, I order a consignment kit from the website and after completing a packaging slip, I packed up all of my items in a box, and using the pre-paid postage, I shipped off my items at my local FedEx. Still very easy. From the selling price, I receive 60% commission. Payments are made on the 15th every month via check or direct deposit. Check out their list here of designers they accept. 

ThredUp: I have loads and loads of clothes. Causal, professional, dressy, workout, and everything in between. Also, my clothes are very diverse in regards to designers. I have everything from Michael Kors to Forever 21. I actually have a lot from Forever 21. I've been looking for ages for a site where I can sell my old clothes. I know eBay is very popular and I've given it a try but honestly, I don't have time to take photos of all of my clothes then upload them and then add such detailed descriptions. Then sellers contact you and ask loads of questions for $5 jeans. I don't think it's worth the time. I discovered this site via Pinterest and I was a bit concerned. When I googled the company, the reviews were terrible! Like really bad. So I actually didn't do anything for a month. Then I said to myself, what am I going to do with all of this stuff? Just send it! Seriously, I sent my clothes off with absolutely no expectations. I sent clothes to them that I was not expecting to get back and if I got zero money from them, I would be fine with it. (They don't late clothes they don't accept!) Since I was willing to give the clothes away for free, I had nothing to lose. I went on the site, requested a sellers bag and then filled it up once it arrived and shipped it out. I earn about $40 for each bag I send. Each bag is usually about 15 pounds. Yes, I know I have a lot of things! I've sent 6 bags so far and have made about $350. Remember: send things you are willing to give away for free and expect nothing! PS- you can choose to have items not accept to get sent back to you for a $12 fee. Also, this isn't a quick way to make money. Between them receiving your bag, processing everything, and offering're looking at a month and a half. 

Decluttr: I learned about this visit via Pinterest. You can sell back your CDs and DVDs. So I was a little hesitant because I've really build up my DVD collection over the past 10 years. Who hasn't? DVDs aren't cheap and I kinda didn't want to get rid of any of them. But then I had to have a "Come to Jesus" talk with myself. When was the last time I actually watched a real DVD and not Netflix? Ummmm...its been years! Between Netflix and Amazon Prime, I never watch DVDs. So why was I keeping them so they can collect dust and take up room I don't have? I don't know. So I finally gave in and setup my sellers account. Admittedly, you will not make loads of money from the site. I made $60 and I sent over 100 DVDs. But it was $60 just sitting in my closet and literally just taking up valuable space. I didn't send any CDs because I didn't have the original packaging. I just used to keep the cd and throw away the case. I purchased one of those large CD holder binder things and that's where I stores my collection. I also kept my CDs because I still haven't uploaded everything to iTunes. I takes forever! So if you're interested in making an extra dollar or two to pay for some groceries, give this site a try. How does it work? Create an account, tell them all DVDs or CDs you want to send, they give you the price they are willing to purchase them for, you accept, print the shipping label, put everything in a box, and say goodbye!

Are you interested in making extra cash?

Like a Boss

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Like A Boss Quote from the gossip darling blog

Happy Saturday loves. Hope you all having a wonderful weekend. My work weeks have been full of stress lately. The past month has really been brutal. Its caused me to really think about things and how I can change what's happening, and how I can take back control over my life.

Today I'm going to get really personal so hope you don't mind. My life is always a bit crazy. I have a full time job in Manhattan and I have a few part time gigs, including this little blog. I love staying busy. My life motto is "busy is always a good thing". Well now I'm starting to rethink that. The main reason why I'm always busy is because I'm a people pleaser. It's impossible for me to say no. I hate the idea of people being mad at me or saying negative things about me because I said... "no". I guess no one really likes for people to hate them or think negatively of them. (Well at least I don't think) I especially hate for people to think that I "can't" do something. But now that I'm 31, it's time to change things up. I need to say "no" more often and really preserve my time and sanity. I get so angry with myself because I always agree to things I really don't want to do. I end up doing something that I really want to do half fast so I can cross it off my list, being mad at myself for stretching myself thin, and sometimes I allow myself to simply be...abused. After some soul searching and honestly...some extremely stressful moments, here's what I've learned and what I need to work on...
  • Creating Balance: I have absolutely no life/work balance. I am always on my phone and always replying to emails. I don't know how to "turn off". (I'm ashamed to say that I sleep with my phone under my pillow) In NYC, time is money so I never want an email to just be sitting in my inbox and potentially losing out on a great opportunity. I'm trying to change this. It's super unhealthy and leads to burnout. I must must must work on turning off my phone and focusing on the moment. Not me listening to someone because my eyes are glued to my iPhone. Life is short and you have to enjoy it. When you die, your iPhone isn't coming with you...
  • I'm Only Human: I'm only one person. I can't be everything to everyone at all moments of the day. Since I'm a people pleaser, when it comes to work, I always tell people "oh can do it!" Again, it leads to burnout, creates an imbalance between your personal life and work life, and isn't good for your health in the long run. When I wake up and see over 234 emails I've gotten overnight, my stress level hits the roof and I start banging away. No no no. I have to delegate tasks. I have to learn how to say no. I have to learn how to set boundaries. I have to learn that it's totally ok and necessary to work a normal work day and take days off! After time away, I'll feel more inspired and I'll have more energy for things that need to get done. I'm only human...
  • If It's So Easy, Do It Yourself: Again, I'm such a people pleaser. I get so angry with myself! People love passing off their work and saying "you can do this." No. Create the balance and set your priorities. Also, set boundaries!! Sometimes I'm working 12 hours a day and I see the people trying to pass work off to me going out for a two hour lunch. Yes, things can be easy and only take 5 minutes but those 5 minutes add up and leads to leaving the office at 10pm. Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself and say I'm sorry but I can't help you on this round. And if they say "it's easy"... you can say "then you can easily do it yourself"...Don't be mean and don't stop being a team player, but you know when it's enough. Know you're worth and set those boundaries. 
Are you the boss of your own life? Or is your life the boss of you? How can you make changes?

My Professional Look

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My Professional Look

The weekend is almost here! Yay! Am I the only one super excited?!

I am a lover of all things fashionable. I'm truly obsessed with fashion. I love playing around with different looks and styles. I love how putting on a brand new outfit can change your whole attitude around. I can go from depressed to a smiling fool all because of a pretty accessory.

My biggest piece of fashion advice? Invest in a few great pieces. I am the Queen of mixing Forever 21 with Louis Vuitton. I totally believe in spending a good amount of money on wallets, handbags, and jewelry. For me personally, I rarely change my wallet or handbag so I need to spend money on good quality so my items can last me forever. I'm probably going to get into trouble for this...but I rarely change my handbag because I work in an office and 98% of the time, my handbag is stuffed in a drawer. I have my large Louis Vuitton wallet and it still looks brand new after 8 years! (I never use my wallet on a daily basis. I have a mini credit card holder that I use the majority of the time!)

I also think it's very important to "complete" every look. You don't want to wear the most beautiful formal gown in the world and have the most beautiful accessories're walking around with a massively chipped manicure. Trust me, we all have days where a nail chips or you put on two different pairs of shoes (yes, this has happened when I'm in a hurry), but at least if you aim to look "complete", hopefully the universe will feel that energy and make it happen.

Here are some of my fave pieces when I need to look professional yet fashionable....

1. The Classic White Button-Down: I absolutely love a crisp white shirt. I developed the white shirt obsession from my Mother. She seriously has a closet full and when we shop together, she's like "oh I need a new white shirt. Isn't this one perfect?" Mothers are always can dress this up or dress this down!

2. Black Leggings/Skinnys: I love love love leggings. I have over 20 pairs in different colors. I work out in them...lounge in them... and even go to work in them. Again, you can totally dress them up or down. They are so comfy and easy. I will never give up my leggings. I found an amazing pair at J. Crew and I ended up buying three of the same pair. If it ain't broke, don't fix it.

3. The Black Loafers: According to my friends, I'm apparently known for my love of loafers. Lol. Kinda makes me self-conscious because people are noticing my habits! Loafers are always in style. I absolutely love my heels but since I spend most of my day running around, flats are way more practical for me. But I like to still look cute as I run around. I own these black flats and I can't gush over them enough.

4. Loose Hair: A nice high bun is always elegant but my hair is so long and heavy that if I wear it up for too long and often, I start to get headaches. Most of the time, I leave my hair down. It's just more comfortable for me. Instead of getting my "long hair headache", I can just focus on my day and get on with my work.

5. Elegant Large Black Bag: The black bag above is by Celine but not all of us have $3k to spend on a handbag. (I wish I did!) I have many large black totes. Since I live in NYC, I have to carry large bags in order to fit all of the things I need throughout the day. (I miss having a car where I can throw things in the backseat!) Not only do my handbags have to hold my wallet, makeup, and other fun also needs to hold my umbrella, water bottle, gym clothes, and other random items I like to carry about and probably have no use for. A large bag is a must for me. Instead of carrying multiple small or medium bags with me daily, please just give me one large one.

6. Red Manicure: I've always believed that anything red brings you good luck. Every New Year's, I always make sure I am wearing something red! I think it's elegant, timeless, and chic. A red manicure reminds me of the elegance of the 1920s. Just add black eyeliner and I'm in heaven. Me doing business with a fresh red manicure....I'm unstoppable.

What are your favorite items to make you look the most professional?

The Top 5 Shows to Watch on Netflix

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If you're like me, you love television. But even more, you love Netflix. Netflix gives us the opportunity to taste a show or movie, and maybe try something else. Shows that make you cry, laugh and ponder are gonna be on this list. Get ready:

1. Gilmore Girls

It's about a small town mother and daughter who are close in age, and go through family, relationship, high school, and college drama, while keeping it light hearted and heavy on pop-culture references. It's s heartwarming and the town they live in is just as big a character as they are. Must love coffee!

BONUS: Gilmore Girls is coming back to Netflix for a series revival!

2. Scandal

Scandal is an incredible drama mystery that truly sucks you in with great story lines and diversity. It's a political drama unlike any other. Olivia Pope is the main "fixer" to scandals regarding the White House and all of Washington DC. 

3. Parenthood
Parenthood takes the real life struggles of adult life and puts them in a beautifully written show featuring characters you really fall in love with. Full of tears, it tackles situations like illness, love, childbirth, and death in the Braverman family. Tissues are a must!

4. One Tree Hill

One Tree Hill is a dramatic depiction of high school life to college life in North Caroline for a group of friends. It is funny and it is sad, so many emotions in this show. Always have a box of tissues around for this one. 

5. Friends

Friends has got to be everyone's favorite TV show. Netflix brought this show back to life when they added this. This show is a life saver. 

Top 5 Breakfast Smoothies

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Hello darlings!!

Everyone knows that breakfast is the most important meal of the day—but who are we kidding ourselves, most of us don’t have time to squeeze in a hearty breakfast! NO BUENO!

The solution to an easy and healthy breakfast are smoothies! Not only do they contain all the essential nutrients the body need, they are super easy and quick to create.

Here are my top 5 breakfast smoothies:

The Berry Smoothie:

The easiest way to think of this smoothie is to use any fruit that ends in –BERRY. Blend strawberries, raspberries, and blueberries in a blender with almond milk. YUMMY!

Banana Nut Blast:

If you love peanut butter, this is the morning shake for you! In a blender filled with almond milk, add a ripe banana with a spoonful of peanut butter. Using peanut butter is a great way to add protein to your shakes without using chemical-filled protein powders.

The Hulk:

The reason why I call this shake the hulk is because one it’s green and two it has wonderful ingredients that make you strong! Blend coconut milk, mango, banana, spinach and a little bit of orange juice. Don’t be scared to try it! It looks weird but it taste amazing!

The Energizer:

Eating vegetables is a struggle, however not when you disguised them well. In a juicer, add celery, carrots, green apples and oranges for a blast of energy. I don’t like celery yet I can drink this shake with no problema!


Who said you are too old to have a PB&J for breakfast? Turn your favorite sandwich into a quick smoothie. With coconut milk add frozen raspberry and a spoonful of peanut butter. Vuala!

Let me know what is your favorite breakfast smoothie?

Easy 3 Step Contouring

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Contouring, it's the way to temporarily better the angles and definition of your face. Because I use a liquid based contour kit, I can't do it everyday. But when you have a special occasion - or just want to try it out, go for it! Here is an in depth step by step that can help you achieve more defined cheekbones, nose, or anything else you may want to play around with.

Step 1: Start by highlighting under your eyes (for best results use a pigment that's 1-2 tones lighter than your skin tone), create triangle shapes under the eyes. If you're interested in making your nose appear smaller, make a line straight down the nose (we'll get back to that!) Be sure to highlight your forehead too if you want to brighten the look of it, which in turn, will make it appear smaller/bigger depending on how much highlighter you apply.

Step 2: Back to thinning out the appearance of your nose, on both sides of your nose, essentially right next to where that line down the nose is, with a pigment about 2-3 shades darker than your natural skin color draw lines down the side of the nose connecting right above the nostrils. With the same pigment, make lines on the hollows of your cheekbones. If you don't know exactly where they are, make a fish face and you'll find them! 

Step 3: Blend it all with a beauty blender or a Kabuki brush! Go over with a powder foundation to set. Apply your favorite makeup setting spray for a longer lasting look.

I use "Motives Mavens Sculpt Series in Ice"
Easy 3 Step Contouring with Motives Mavens in Sculpt Series in ice

Lazy Weekend Look

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Lazy Weekend Look

Yes, it's only Tuesday and I am already dreaming of the weekend. I love wearing comfortable clothes. Period. I especially love wearing comfortable clothes over the weekend. Who wants to dress up on the weekends after you've been dressing up all week. Nobody! 

Here's my fave look for a lazy look!

1. Gray Hoodie- Who doesn't love to snuggle into a comfy hoodie?

2. Destroyed Jeans- I'm obsessed with ripped jeans. I can wear them all day everyday. You can dress them up or dress them down. It's the definition of heaven. 

3. Uggs- Enough said. They are like walking on clouds. I own a few pairs. Long ones, sequins ones, furry ones, but these short ones are my fave. 

4. Messy Bun- Messy hair? I don't care! Throw it up!

5. Beanie- Wanna leave your hair down instead? Look cute and stylish while covering up your messy hair!

6. White Nails- They are my fave. For some reason, my manicures consists of 3 colors: white, red, or black (or a version close to black) My Favorite color is Alpine Snow by OPI

What are your favorite weekend looks?

My Favorite DIY Skincare Recipes!

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My Favorite DIY Skincare Recipes!

Hello darlings!

I don’t know about you but I’ve spent a lot of $$$ buying skincare products!! AHH!

Believe it or not, most skincare products are made using unnecessary chemicals. That being said, why not create our own skincare products using ONLY natural ingredients we can find in our pantry or fridge. 

Here are my top 5 DIY skin recipes that are easy and won’t break the bank:

1.     Vitamin E Oil and Evening Primrose Oil Eye Cream

Vitamin E has antioxidant properties that help fight signs of aging, as well as protect the skin from any sun damage. Evening Primrose Oil helps diminish fine lines and inflammation that can be found under the eyes. Together these two ingredients create an inexpensive and effective eye cream, great for anyone!

2.    Bentonite Clay and Apple Cider Vinegar Mask  

Women around the world have used clay masks for centuries. Even Cleopatra loved to use them! The key is to combine bentonite clay and apple cider vinegar to create a mask the not only removes all the skin’s impurities but also helps with acne. Take an equal part of bentonite clay and apple cider vinegar and mix it together until you get a paste. Apply it to the skin and let the clay harden. I’m going to warn you, this mask is going to tighten a lot! It might even hurt, but the tightening helps remove all the gunk from your pores, as well as help the blood circulate in your skin.

3. Lemon Juice and Witch Hazel Brightening Toner

If you’ve never used a toner for your skin, what are you waiting for?? The answer to many of our skin’s problems can be solved with just one product. Toners help shrink those ugly pores that look like moon craters on our skin. Ugh I swear men don’t have these problems!! A toner also balances the pH levels of the skin that can be disturbed when using cleansers. Instead of buying a toner at a drugstore, use water, lemon juice and witch hazel to create you very own brightening toner. You can find the exact recipe here.

4. Honey and Sugar Facial Scrub

As we all know, exfoliating is very important to remove all the dead skin cells that build up on the skin. A super easy and natural exfoliator is combining honey and sugar. Honey has antibacterial properties that are beneficial for the skin, especially those with acne and oiliness. The sugar itself acts like a gentle scrub.  Combine the two ingredients and gently massage onto the skin in circular motions. Once you are done, rinse the scrub off and your left with soft glowing skin.

Next time you see a bee, thank them for this wonderful delicacy. On second thought just run away!!

5. Eggs Mask

There is nothing better than achieving soft glowing skin. I mean who doesn’t want that J.Lo glow?! Well the answer is an egg. Egg yolks, banana, and olive oil are the perfect ingredients to create a moisturizing mask. Even if your skin is oily, it still needs that nourishment. Trust me it sounds pretty gross to smother a raw egg on your skin, but the results are pretty astonishing.

If you tried any of these recipes please let me know. Also, what are you favorite DIY skin care recipes?