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Happy Saturday loves. Hope you all having a wonderful weekend. My work weeks have been full of stress lately. The past month has really been brutal. Its caused me to really think about things and how I can change what's happening, and how I can take back control over my life.

Today I'm going to get really personal so hope you don't mind. My life is always a bit crazy. I have a full time job in Manhattan and I have a few part time gigs, including this little blog. I love staying busy. My life motto is "busy is always a good thing". Well now I'm starting to rethink that. The main reason why I'm always busy is because I'm a people pleaser. It's impossible for me to say no. I hate the idea of people being mad at me or saying negative things about me because I said... "no". I guess no one really likes for people to hate them or think negatively of them. (Well at least I don't think) I especially hate for people to think that I "can't" do something. But now that I'm 31, it's time to change things up. I need to say "no" more often and really preserve my time and sanity. I get so angry with myself because I always agree to things I really don't want to do. I end up doing something that I really want to do half fast so I can cross it off my list, being mad at myself for stretching myself thin, and sometimes I allow myself to simply be...abused. After some soul searching and honestly...some extremely stressful moments, here's what I've learned and what I need to work on...
  • Creating Balance: I have absolutely no life/work balance. I am always on my phone and always replying to emails. I don't know how to "turn off". (I'm ashamed to say that I sleep with my phone under my pillow) In NYC, time is money so I never want an email to just be sitting in my inbox and potentially losing out on a great opportunity. I'm trying to change this. It's super unhealthy and leads to burnout. I must must must work on turning off my phone and focusing on the moment. Not me listening to someone because my eyes are glued to my iPhone. Life is short and you have to enjoy it. When you die, your iPhone isn't coming with you...
  • I'm Only Human: I'm only one person. I can't be everything to everyone at all moments of the day. Since I'm a people pleaser, when it comes to work, I always tell people "oh can do it!" Again, it leads to burnout, creates an imbalance between your personal life and work life, and isn't good for your health in the long run. When I wake up and see over 234 emails I've gotten overnight, my stress level hits the roof and I start banging away. No no no. I have to delegate tasks. I have to learn how to say no. I have to learn how to set boundaries. I have to learn that it's totally ok and necessary to work a normal work day and take days off! After time away, I'll feel more inspired and I'll have more energy for things that need to get done. I'm only human...
  • If It's So Easy, Do It Yourself: Again, I'm such a people pleaser. I get so angry with myself! People love passing off their work and saying "you can do this." No. Create the balance and set your priorities. Also, set boundaries!! Sometimes I'm working 12 hours a day and I see the people trying to pass work off to me going out for a two hour lunch. Yes, things can be easy and only take 5 minutes but those 5 minutes add up and leads to leaving the office at 10pm. Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself and say I'm sorry but I can't help you on this round. And if they say "it's easy"... you can say "then you can easily do it yourself"...Don't be mean and don't stop being a team player, but you know when it's enough. Know you're worth and set those boundaries. 
Are you the boss of your own life? Or is your life the boss of you? How can you make changes?

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