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Why You Should Start Your Own Blog

8:00:00 AM

I've been debating with myself whether I should write this post or not. Since my job as a blogger is to share my thoughts and hopefully help my readers, I decided to just stop overthinking and just start writing. About two weeks ago, I was having a few drinks with co-workers and we started chatting about fashion bloggers and how influential they are. For example...I rarely read magazines anymore! I get all fashion, beauty, home decor, and life inspiration from reading blogs. So one person said that the blog industry is super saturated and it's stupid to start a brand new blog at this stage since it's going to be impossible to "make it". I didn't say anything at that moment because I really didn't know what to say. I admit, her comment really bothered me. Am I wasting my time? Can I spend hours and hours creating new content to only have my best friend reading? (Love you Karen!) Should I just call it a day and realize that the blogging industry doesn't have room for me?

After my 2nd glass of wine, I had to slap myself back to reality. Lies!! Lies!! All lies!! Of course there's room for new bloggers! Of course some of the most successful blogs in the future haven't even been created yet! That's like telling Adele, "don't even bother singing because Whitney already did her thing and you'll never be as good as her...". Or telling someone new, "nope, I don't want to be your friend because I already have some." Doesn't make sense right? Adele and Whitney are and were both extremely talented and you can't say one is better than the other. The "end result" is based on a listener's opinion. I really kept obsessing over her comments. This isn't my first blog and I still haven't "made it". Is blogging just a stupid hobby and I'll never make a living out of it? I took something from the conversation and decided to share my thoughts with you.

What I learned so far from my blogging journey...

1. Be Authentic: In order to be successful, I need to be true to myself and "real". I write my blog as if I were speaking to my friends with a glass of wine in my hand. It's important for me to stay true and honest with my readers. Don't "sell out" because something is popular, trendy, and I'm making a buck. It's like that fake friend. You're going to sense the shade and keep it moving. Ex/ I am an obsessive blog reader and I used to be obsessed with one fashion blogger. I read everything she wrote religiously. Her blog was like Vogue...very chic, upscale, and totally out of my price range. But it was eye candy to me. One day from reading about Valentino and Chanel, I see her writing a read her latest post while drinking my coffee and it's about her love of ...Crocs. Don't get me wrong, I like Crocs but you go from $2k Louboutins to $30 Crocs. Not saying that she's not allowed to like Crocs, but how to do write only about high designer items everyday and then do a total turnaround for just one post? I felt betrayed because I felt like she "sold out". I totally get having a pay bills but that's like seeing Victoria Beckham leaving her house with no makeup and sweatpants. You gotta stay true to your brand and be authentic...even in the face of $$$.

2. Be Brave: I'm always questioning myself on whether I should post something or not. Am I overthinking? Do I come off sounding like a know it all bitch? Then I thought to myself... if I "follow the rules", what's going to set me apart from the other bloggers? If I were having a girls dinner with my friends, would I hesitate to share the story? Chances are...no. I would totally share. I know that I'm not going to be everyone's cup of tea but I think it's important for me to push past my comfort zones and really think outside of the box. Don't overthink each and every post. Would I share this story with my bff? Will it maybe help someone else? Will I inspire, teach, or make at least one person laugh? If so, then I don't care. I'm going for it and hitting publish! (Sorry in advance for future oversharing). I know it's the new trend to write posts about crazy blogging success and making $25k a month from a blog. Sorry guys but I don't have any stories like that. I don't make any money from my blog (yet) but I can share all of my mistakes and some of the lessons I've learned along the way. Everyone laughs at the bloopers right?

3. Stay Humble: I don't care where you are in life, it's important to stay humble and not act like an a*s. People don't have to read your blog or be kind enough to follow you on social media. Stay humble, kind, and appreciative whether you're crazy successful or not. It's in very bad taste to start acting like the diva when your blog takes off. Trust me, I've seen the change in attitudes before and it isn't cool. Even if you're the most successful blogger in the world, you never know what's around the corner. Stay gracious and don't change.

Are you thinking of starting your own blog? If so, what concerns do you have?


  1. Great post! I'm glad you wrote this!! And while I do believe that Whitney is the be all and end all...that doesn't mean there isn't room for other unique voices in our earballs!! :) keep it up girl!

    1. Thank you SOOOO much!! I really appreciate the support! xoxo