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Grateful

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Personal Post about gratitude || The Gossip Darling blog

Hello loves. Hope you're all having a great week so far! I just wanted to share some personal updates with you all. Since I started my blog less than a year ago, I can't believe how much this little baby of mine has grown and I'm so grateful and appreciative of the blessings and just wanted to share a bit of my journey and my feelings about everything!

As I've shared many times before, this isn't my first attempt at blogging. I used to run a wedding blog for over 3 years. I started that blog after working as a wedding planning assistant in Manhattan for a few years. It was a very exciting job and I loved it for 5 years that I did it and at the time, I truly loved everything about weddings. But after working well over 100 weddings and blogging over 1,000, let's just say I experienced major burnout. I was blogging sometimes 2x to 3x daily and I felt like a hamster on a wheel. My wedding blog didn't have as many readers as I would have liked and I wasn't making any money. The key factor to this was my lack of passion and feeling pressure about pumping out new content when I didn't love what I was doing. Even though I still enjoy a nice wedding, I totally overworked myself and I fell out of love with my blog. When you aren't passionate about what you are writing and you are blogging for the wrong reasons, your readers will sense your indifference and as a result, they will stop reading. Authenticity is key when it comes to blogging. You truly have to believe in your words and there has to be truth in everything you do. You have to be true to yourself and your readers every single time you post new content, update social media, and every small little detail. It's about trust. For me, blogging is like gossiping with my friends while enjoying a few drinks. When I meet up with my friends, am I speaking fluff? Am I just talking for the sake of talking? Am I being a fake friend? No, no, and no. Same should hold true when blogging. Truth and authenticity are key and is a must have in our blogging community.

In my blog post here, I made 5 promises to myself and what I won't be doing with my new blog. I promised to:
  1. Not compare myself to others
  2. Not to check my stats every 10 minutes
  3. Not to follow someone else's lead
  4. Not to beat myself up over lack of readers or progress
  5. Not feel pressured or stressed
If I'm being honest, I have sometimes broken these promises from time to time. I am a type a girl who is very competitive with myself. At times, I have stalked my stats but then I talk myself off the ledge. Calm down Mel. The most important thing about my blog is connecting with others and documenting my journey and life. In my life I have such great passion for style, beauty, fashion, blogging, home decor, fitness, and all the randomness this beautiful world has to offer. If today I want to share my thoughts on a new bronzer, then I do! If tomorrow I want to share the news that I paid off two credit cards, then I will! I had no idea if my "no-niche" blog would be read by anyone except my best friends. (Hi Karen and Erica! *wave*) The main purpose was: to simply be me. 

I'm so grateful to be able to say that since I started this blog (about seven months ago), it has just gone from strength to strength. I had no idea I was going to be able to reach and connect to so many people in such a short period of time. Just like in all aspects of life, I have learned from my previous mistakes and have made changes with this blog. If I don't feel like writing, then I don't. I only share things that I truly believe in. I am just so lucky that my darling readers have been so awesome to me. 

This month alone I have:
  • Been nominated for a lovely Liebster Award by the awesome Donyelle
  • One of my favorite bloggers, Fun Cheap or Free, (who I gushed about here) asked me to be a guest blogger! It was such an honor for me. I squealed when I got the email. See my article here!
  • IT Cosmetics retweeting my post and asking their followers to check it out! Then....they asked if they could feature one of my Instagram pics on their feed. 
  • Kiehl's France Instagram feed asked to feature one of my pics. 
  • Lush and Josie Maran Cosmetics thanked me for posts
  • I'm connecting with more bloggers than ever
I know these are probably small accomplishments for huge major bloggers, but to me..it truly means the world. After a previous blog behind and feeling like I failed and abandoned my baby, I took a leap of faith and started something from scratch. Many of my friends advised against it. Why don't I just create a lifestyle series on my wedding blog? Why not just add more beauty posts? In my heart, I knew it was the right decision to start something new and work my way from the bottom again. Today, I have absolutely no regrets. I listened to my gut and it hasn't failed me. 

Thank you sooo much to all of my wonderful readers. I am truly grateful and appreciative of the support and you taking the time out of your day and read what I have to say. You don't have to do it and yet you do. 

Thank you. xo

12 comments:

  1. I'm glad you enjoy blogging here on this blog, as I enjoy reading it. X

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    1. Thank you soooo much!! I really appreciate your support! xo

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  2. I really needed to see this post. I recently started a new blog (after other failed attempts) and it helps to be reminded that it all comes down to staying true to yourself. Thank you!!

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    1. Awwww you're so sweet! Trust me, never give up! Have faith! Just keep trying and amazing things will happen. I really appreciate your support. What's your blog's URL?

      xo

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  3. A beautiful post! I totally feel what you are talking about and what you mean by burnout. I manage my YouTube channel and my blog + all the social medias that go along that. Sometimes I get so caught up in producing content and my stats, but this year I promised myself to only do things I am passionate about and to focus on quality over quantity. Keep up the great work!
    xoxo
    Serein
    http://sereinwu.com

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    1. Thank you sooo much! You are so sweet! Yes! It all becomes too much. I'm thinking about adding someone on my team who can just help with the smaller tasks. I'm sure many bloggers have people helping them behind the scenes :)

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  4. I want to make all of those promises to myself as well. When I started my blog I always compared myself so harshly to others that have been doing it a lot longer than me and it's such a toxic cycle. I agree that authenticity is key with blogging, the blogs that feel the most authentic are the ones I love the most.

    www.thesundaymode.blogspot.com.au

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    1. Thank you sooo much! Comparison can def become toxic. I think it's just so hard in the blogging world. Be true to yourself and let it show through your blog. Truth will lead to amazing things :)

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  5. Not comparing yourself to others is the hardest but most necessary. We won't accomplish anything in life looking at what others are doing instead of focusing on ourselves & bettering our lives. Great thoughts. :]

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    1. Thank you sooo much. You're so right! It's hard but 100% necessary! xoxo

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  6. Congratulations on your blog anniversary! Love the post
    xx
    Ana
    Indie Suns | Bloglovin' | Instagram

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